So you’ve started a home business (or about to) and have been taken aback by the reaction of people you considered to be your friends. Some of them have been negative and tried to plant seeds of doubt in your brain.
Now the niggling doubts start to build. If you’re not careful you’ll be out of the business before you started.
So what can you do to eliminate or at the very least reduce bad comments (and handle them better when you get them)?
Take a look:
In 2006 I made the decision to become an internet marketer, or to be more precise, an affiliate marketer. After looking at various programs for a few weeks, I settled on one that I thought could be a good money spinner. But I had some doubts and wanted to talk to someone about it. But after reviewing a list of people I could discuss it with, I decided not to tell any of them. The only person I told was my wife and after due consideration (about ten minutes), she gave it the thumb’s up.
So why didn’t I discuss it with other people? A couple of reasons. I had already made the decision and didn’t want to be swayed by anyone. I had a certain amount of belief in myself and figured it would be good enough to make it work. Looking back I made the right decision because I started to make very good money by the end of the first month. Ten years later I’ve sold millions of dollars worth of products online. So, yeah it was the right decision.
What about you?
Should you follow my lead and keep your plan to yourself (other than talking to your partners)? Probably. But if you must talk to someone, read the next point…….
If you must share your plans with others, for goodness sakes share with people who support you and want you to succeed. I also suggest you seek out people who already have a pattern of success in the home business arena. Please note that I said ‘home business’. A home business such as a network marketing business, an mlm program, or an affiliate program is quite different to a conventional business.
That’s is why I decided against seeking advice from traditional business owners about my decision to become an online affiliate marketer. My reasoning was that they had no clue about this type of business and therefore would only distract me from pursuing my dream.
I have this theory that the reason why some people insist on sharing their plans with all and sundry is that they secretly want a reason not to proceed with the business.
I call it ‘pulling out the weeds’. Every now and again you need to take a ‘friend stocktake’. Write a list of the people you associate with and grade them according to the value they bring to the relationship. Value subtractors need to be eliminated. Does that mean you have to immediately cut them off? Not necessarily – you can start the process by distancing yourself from them, one step at a time. Sooner or later they’ll take a hint and leave of their own accord.
What about relatives? Mmm. A vexed issue. They say you can choose your friends but you sure can’t choose your family. Whilst true you can still give family members a wide birth when it comes to your future business plans.
The real issue is you. Do you have an overweening need to be loved?
Many people are ‘soft in the head’. They’re far too malleable and are often swayed by the opinion of others. So, the real issue is not what people think about you. It is about you and your opinion of yourself.
How can you give your confidence a boost? Press on. Just do the thing that scares you.
Dream stealers are everywhere. Although the people who are close to you may have your best interests at heart, they cannot make you successful in your new venture. Only you can do that. On the assumption that the program you’ve joined (or about to) is a good one, there is zero need to confide in anyone except your partner/spouse.
It’s your life and you’re the one who has to make a go of it, so step forward with confidence and resolve. Your new life awaits you.
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I've been an online marketer since 2006. During that time I've learned alot and made a full time living from month 1. I established this site to share my knowledge with you. Who knows - maybe you will change your life, just like I have.