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Commitment Phobes and Nervous Nellies


Is Fear of Commitment the New Normal For Home Business Marketers?

Some people would rather do anything than roll up their sleeves and do some work.
They sign up for different money making programs as if the mere act of joining would somehow change their lives.
It can’t. But winning the lottery has an irresistible allure for some people.
That’s why some folks didn’t join my new Mastermind Program. It requires work, and they know if they shirk effort, they’ll be exposed as fakes. Their carefully constructed self-image (built on froth, not substance) can’t risk exposure, can it?
(By the way, if you’re a worker and not a shirker, you can add your name to the waiting list for my next one.)
Of course lack of commitment manifests in all sorts of ways.  Whether it’s relationships or business involvement, lack of commitment seems to be rampant at the moment.

Why People Avoid Commitment

Fear Of Being Exposed.  As indicated, people sometimes don’t commit to a home business because of fear of being exposed as fakes or phonies. Behind their cleverly constructed persona lurks a shell of a person.  An underachiever for sure.
Pain Avoidance.  We seek pleasure and avoid pain.  Nothing wrong with that but when it comes to a financial advancement project, risks need to be taken.  This means that mistakes will be made, which is often painful to people.
Fear of Failure.  Fear of failing and even fear of making a mistake often prevent people from making a commitment.  Part of the cause could be due to family and societal conditioning.  We’re taught that it’s bad to make a mistake.  Some people take it to heart and will do almost anything to avoid failing.  This often manifests as risk avoidance behaviour.  Projects are not undertaken with the full-throated commitment that they need.
Chasing the Holy Grail.  The home business space attracts all sorts of people.  Some are fine upstanding folk who take a balanced and sober approach to building their business.  But other’s have a get rich quick mentality.  They look for the quick fix.  Thus they fail to make a full-throated commitment to make their new venture succeed and prosper.
Low Self-Esteem.  Low self-esteem can be a factor for some people.  Their negative self-talk feeds into their narrative.  In their mind, they’re not worthy or deserving of success.
Time Poor.  Most of us lead busy lives.  Our lives are jam packed with so many activities, not the least of which is our career.  But external to our job are activities associated with our families, hobbies, church etc. So, it’s not unusual that many people are time poor.  Is it any wonder that so many find it hard to commit?
A Prisoner Of the Past.  People who have failed in the past often keep reliving the event ad nauseum. Because of this they become a prisoner of their past and seem incapable of letting it go and moving forward.  Keep in mind you can learn from the past.  Mistakes made before can represent lessons for the future.
Fear of Rejection.  Most people hate being rejected.  It hurts.  But in the home business arena, rejection is part of the deal – it happens. So, how do you insulate yourself from the debilitating effects of rejection and quickly move forward?

Different Types of Commitment

See How It Goes.  This is what I call the ‘dip your toe in the water’ method.  When someone embarks on a project in a tentative and timid way they set themselves up for failure.  It’s a form of self-sabotage.
Qualified Commitment.  These people make a commitment, but it is always qualified and cloaked in the verbiage of someone with a get out of jail card.  I call it commitment with a caveat.
Whatever It Takes.  These people are always in the minority.  They are the real warriors of the business world.  They make a commitment.  To hell with the consequences is their attitude.  If you recruit one of these people to your team, stand back and watch them perform miracles.

How to Become More Committed

Create a Vacuum.  I love this strategy.  It’s based on the Prosperity Law of Vacuum and works like this.  If you remove unnecessary clutter from your life, miracles can happen.  Excessive clutter is one of the reasons people don’t commit to building their home business.  Too many distractions cause a diminution of resolve and belief.  The solution? Create a space for the good you desire.
Cut it out!
Find Your Why.  If you don’t already know it, you should take some time to get clear on the emotional reasons why you want to succeed in your business.  It’s not enough to say you want to earn XX income.  You need to drill down and find the emotional motivators and hot buttons that mean something to you.
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  Susan Jeffers wrote a book titled Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  It’s an apt title and the book makes it very clear that taking action is usually the best antidote to fear.
Focus On Small Wins At First.  Imperative number 1 is to build your confidence.  Nothing succeeds like success.  Having small daily wins can be just the thing you need to convince you it’s time to ramp up your commitment.

How to Encourage Commitment If You’re Building a Team

Someone said that trying to get people in MLM programs and the like to take action and follow instructions, is like trying to herd cats. There is a certain amount of truth to the statement.  Here is why: most people are ill-disciplined.  They’re like an unguided missile.  No direction, chaotic, erratic.
So, how do you get people to fully commit?

There are different ways to do it, but here is the best thing you can do…..
Have a sense of urgency. Every day of delay is a day closer to the time when the newbie will quit. The best leaders help their new team members make their first dollars.
The key is to light a fire under them. When it happens the chances of them truly committing go through the roof. Try it - banner final

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5 thoughts on “Commitment Phobes and Nervous Nellies”

  1. Hey Kim,
    People who have commitment issues, commitment phobia or relationship anxiety generally have a serious problem in staying in a relationship for the long-term. People with a commitment phobia long and want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.
    If pressed for a commitment, they are far more likely to leave the relationship than to make the commitment Or they may initially agree to the commitment, then back down days or weeks later, because of their overwhelming anxiety and fears.There are many strategies to help someone with commitment phobia, depending on the severity of the anxiety. Eventually, thanks for sharing your interesting thought with us.
    With best regards,
    Amar kumar

    • Hi Amar
      Thanks for giving another perspective on the topic of commitment. Commitment-phobes are probably anxiety ridden people as you have pointed out. Although when it comes to males, sometimes it may b e due to another reason – they’re having too much fun playing the field!
      In the business arena lack of commitment is usually caused by lack of belief.
      Thanks for dropping by

  2. Hi Kim,
    I had such horrifying programming in all things entrepreneur and money growing up that I clung to all fears you noted for years, years, and years, and struggled like hell to commit to anything. Even amid success I had a toughie being ALL IN. Only when I faced, embraced and released these mental issues/lower energies did I dive in to the blogging bit full bore, and strangely enough, I had a big time commitment moment today 😉 Great timing KW 🙂
    I saw the exposure I’ve been getting recently from major websites – Fox News and Entrepreneur – and figured, if I can embrace some deeper fears around failing and rejection, and trust in the Universe more than I ever have, and if I can REALLY enjoy this ride and express myself, and make friends all over, wow can this journey get even more fascinating with me. Not world domination type stuff, but just seeing where a full time commit over the next few months – every freaking day – will take me , my blog, my brand, and all folks who’s lives I touch, because it’s for all of our good.
    Thanks for the great reminder Kim.
    Have a fab week 🙂

    • Great comment, Ryan. For me, commitment levels wax and wane. Sometimes I’ll be fully committed to a project for many weeks, then something happens and I lose focus for week. Thankfully the down times seem to be shorter now
      The fact that you have been successful at getting the Fox News and Entrepreneur Magazine gigs is proof positive of your commitment to your own life and career projects.
      Love it


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